blueirisheyez ([info]blueirisheyez) wrote,
@ 2008-04-19 20:21:00
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Very stressful relationship day

So...the last time I was at Cristian's house, his Dad seemed to be kind of distant.  Normally he is very talkative to me but not so much the last time.  I questioned Cristian about it and he said that it was just that his dad was buy with other stuff and wasn't really talking to anyone.

So today Cristian and I had plans to go to the storage unit (I actually got rid of 90% of the stuff there so moving will be a total breeze), and than we went to look at furniture and housewares.  So his Dad called and about 30 minutes later his Mom called.  I asked him why he just didn't pick up the phone and talk to them and he sort of blew me off.  Much questioning later, he admitted that they really didn't want him with me today and wanted him home.  I asked home for what and he said "to just be home".  Sigh.  I realize they are a different culture but FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!  So finally he calls his mom.  They talk back and forth, I don't understand since they are talking in spanish and he hangs up.  I ask again what's up and he says "nothing" which I know is bullshit.  So I ask him again and he responds...they want me to come home.

Now....I hardly see him, as I know his family very rarely sees him BUT he is off every Thursday so he can go to church with them.  I accept that.  So no matter what, they at least see him on Thursdays.  I am lucky I get him for four hours once or twice a week.  Today really pissed me off as he is off this weekend so tomorrow he will be with them all day anyway because THEY HAVE CHURCH.  So I get pissy and I ask what is up...that I have felt something brewing for awhile and finally he says..."my parents want us to be friends but they don't want anything more...it isn't that they don't like you but the fact that you don't share our religion is a problem".  WTF?????????????????????????????????????????????/

So he is Apostolic and I am Catholic.  Last time I checked, we shared THE SAME GOD.  We believe in The Trinity.  We read the SAME BIBLE.  Other than the fact that I don't believe in speaking in tongues or jumping up and down in the aisle, what exactly IS THE BLOODY DIFFERENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!

So I realize all these phone calls are being done ON PURPOSE to keep us separated.  WHAT YEAR IS THIS?  WHERE THE HELL ARE WE?  WHAT THE FUCK?????????

Much ranting and raving ensues.  With me moving so far away, this relationship was going to be difficult enough.  Now this?  I knew going into this that we would not be forever but I have never been happier with anyone and it kills me that his parents are doing this.  I can't bring myself to walk away but I realize that time is near. 

I was supposed to be so happy this weekend...Sigh.


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Can I get a witness?
[info]renfairewench
2008-04-21 02:22 pm UTC (link)
You wrote: So he is Apostolic and I am Catholic. Last time I checked, we shared THE SAME GOD. We believe in The Trinity. We read the SAME BIBLE. Other than the fact that I don't believe in speaking in tongues or jumping up and down in the aisle, what exactly IS THE BLOODY DIFFERENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's the problem, you don't believe in Speaking in tongues or dancing in the aisles. You're catholic, he's pentecostal? I don't know what Apostolic is. I know when I went to the Assemblies of Gwaaad church Catholics were frowned upon because they believe in Mary and have all those saints that they pray to. AOG/pentecostals are more legalistic and believe that that you only need to pray to Jesus who is in the flesh God..one in the same, but that always confused me because Jesus would say he was the "SON of God" not GOD himself. Like many churches, pentecostalism has many levels to it, from teaching women should not cut their hair and wear only skirts (citing from an old testament verse that says women should not wear a mans clothes. Umm, as I recall, in those days were they all not wearing dresses?"). Then you have the real out there Pentecostals who handle snakes and drink poison (stupidly) all in the name of JEZZZUUUSSS, can I get a witness? I seem to recall something in the Bible saying "don't tempt God", but I think they looked far enough into the bible for that. Further, speaking in tongues isn't given to "everyone" and is like a banging cymbal without interpretation. In other words, if there isn't someone to translate the "gibberish" (what I call it) into something you can understand then bascially you're just making noise and saying nothing. I could go on, but I shant bore you with more details.

Needless to say it isn't about believing in the same God or believing in the trinity, it's about the fact that you don't go to a similar church subscribing to what they do. You should remind them of this "Train up a child in the way he should go and he shall not depart from it." Meaning, that no matter what you believe, if they as parents did their job correctly than Christian and his beliefs should be solid and he won't leave the church. Or perhaps you should just say that you are effing their son and get the hell over it because he's already sinning big time! Ok, so that suggestion isn't going to fly, I know I know.

It really boils down to C standing up and telling mom and dad that they are just going to have to deal with the situation as it is. If he loves you, he should be able to stand up for you no matter who it is voicing objections.

Hang in there honey. I know you care greatly for him and I know that you have had a very level head regarding your relationship with him from the beginning. The brain may know it, but the heart says otherwise.

I love you.

Maddie

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Re: Can I get a witness?
[info]blueirisheyez
2008-04-21 02:43 pm UTC (link)
Yes I realize that there are differences in the "dogma" of each church but in the end, the root of both religions are the same. I have explained my religion to Cris each and every freaking time he asks a question. I have explained that we don't worship the saints that but it is our belief that by praying to them, they interceed on our behalf with God yada yada yada. The thing is, I have been to his church services on numerous occasions and NOT ONCE have I said "hey come to this Catholic service" and I wouldn't do that. I don't want him to change who and what he is, although I don't really "get" what goes on in his church. I said to him once, as I watched people crying and moaning and screaming to God...."my belief is that God wants us to worship him with a joyful heart. He wants our spirits uplifted, not this saddness that I see around me".

It is what it is. In the end only Cristian can speak up to his parents and he won't. I know he won't. So I accept that. I will enjoy the remainder of my time with him and let him go when the time is right and be thankful for the time I did have.

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